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Coming out of the Darkness
I have found healing from abuse can sometimes feel as if I am lost in the darkness. When in the darkness, I don’t know where to turn, or what to hold onto. Other times, I feel wonderful, and I barely...
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No Contact? How Do I Do That?
Are you on Pinterest? I joined to find pictures and blogs about domestic violence. Lately I have seen lots of pictures that talk about NO CONTACT with your abuser. This interests me, because it seems...
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Why Do I Want to Take My Abuser Back?
I have worked with many abused women* who have left their abusers, but, instead of jumping for joy as one might expect, felt drawn back into the relationship. Why might this happen? You still love him...
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Announcing the Release of My New Book!
This is a very exciting day for me! Today I am announcing the release of my second book, A Journey to Healing After Emotional Abuse. I took eighteen months to write this book. I began it when I...
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God-Breathed
On Sunday, my pastor told our church that less than 20% of all regular churchgoers read the bible on a daily basis. This seems a surprising statistic. He asked: Why don’t more Christians read the...
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Do Not Be Afraid
In yesterday’s blog I shared that on Sunday my pastor challenged our church to read two or three chapters of the bible every day for 30 days. We are to read expecting God to speak to us through His...
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Protecting Your Kids in Family Court
So many of the abuse survivors I work with must fight their former abusive partners for custody of their kids in Family Court. The stories I’ve heard would turn your hair. It seems incomprehensible to...
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What If My Ex Sexually Abuses My Child?
This is part two of my series on how to protect you and your kids in Family Court. See Part 1 here. What if you suspect your ex is sexually abusing your children? This is every parent’s worst...
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Drowning – A Great Novel About DV
Do you like to read? I do! Give me a good novel, especially one with a bit of a mystery, and I can lose an entire afternoon curled up reading. If you combine a good novel that has a bit of mystery...
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The Lord Calls for Justice
I just finished my month of reading the bible every day. Toward the end of the month, we were to read the book of Amos. As I did a few weeks ago, I read these two chapters, and wrote down anything...
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Help for Sexual Assault
Many women who have experienced domestic violence have also experienced some type of sexual assault, either in their adult relationship, or as a child. Though you may not have been forcibly raped, as...
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Acceptance – A Vital Part of Healing
Healing from abuse is a long, painful process. I wish that wasn’t true. I wish there was a magic potion we could take, or we had a fairy godmother who could wave her magic wand and it would all be...
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A Letter to Friends of DV Victims
Today, I am reblogging an excellent blog from my new friend who writes for forget me not. Check it out! A Letter to the Family and Friends of Victims May God bless you today! Caroline
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Forgiveness – Seriously?
Recently, I wrote a blog entitled, Acceptance – A Vital Part of Healing. In this blog, I shared my conviction that in order to truly heal from abuse, we need to accept the fact we have been abused. I...
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Family Court through the Eyes of a CFI
I had a unique opportunity recently to interview a former Child and Family Investigator, and ask her what she thought of our current Family Court system. I spoke with Adoree Blair, who has been foster...
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Abusers Are Liars
Abusers are liars. On some level we all know this. Yet, at times, they are able to trick us into forgetting this fact. I will give you few examples. Example A – You are divorced from your abuser. He*...
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Our Stories Matter
One thing I’ve learned as a domestic violence advocate – every survivor’s story matters. Every time a victim survives the hell s/he’s lived through, it is another point in the “win” column.Tweet This...
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What If It Isn’t Well With My Soul?
Life can be hard. Especially if you are in an abusive relationship, or healing from one. Or if you are a woman, or a human. You catch my drift. Life can be hard for all of us sometimes. And sometimes...
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Help for Sexual Assault
Many women who have experienced domestic violence have also experienced some type of sexual assault, either in their adult relationship, or as a child. Though you may not have been forcibly raped, as...
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Do You Isolate Yourself?
I believe one of the best things a survivor of abuse can do to help with her* healing is to get out of the house and be among loving, caring friends. You might agree . . . in theory. However, the...
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